Proverbs 3:5-6 NASB - "5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight."
When we suffer a great loss many people of Christian faith will tell us to trust the Lord. All such advice is well intended and true in a certain context. But we have to be careful in sharing this truth with those who are suffering a broken heart.
To trust in the personal and loving God who has made promises to us that there will be gain in all our pain is difficult when our trust in God may have been that HE would be keeping some struggle or tragedy to occur. Now that it has occurred the person of faith has to shift their understanding of the will and purpose of God to a reality that had seemed to be impossible.
At this point we have to learn to not lean, depend, or trust in what we would have understood to be the better path for those we loved and ourselves. We must accept that in every event the Lord of love, care, and compassion is present. At this point we will be trusting the Lord in the dark since we may not have any idea of how what has occurred will work for good or that we will be able to handle the weight of this loss at a practical level of living.
How can we gain trust like this. It must be a gift from the LORD that calls us to believe and depend on HIM. Our vision must focus on the cross of Christ Jesus and see there the full commitment of God for us and that no unnecessary loss, pain, or tragedy can come to us, but only those necessary for the greater redemption of the world and our own growth in grace. We must trust that God’s tears over our loss are greater and more abundant than our own for HE alone really understands the profound nature of all of this struggle.
As our vision of the LORD’s great commitment and care for us grows then we will depend, believe, and trust in HIM more. Trust comes from vision and so we need a revelation of the LORD’s great plan placed into our soul.
Lord, let me trust in your goodness, grace, and greatness at this time of loss. Lord I believe, help my unbelief. Amen